Most people feel angry sometimes, but if it's affecting your life, there are things you can try that may help. Support is also available if you're finding it hard to cope with stress, anxiety or depression.

Symptoms of anger
Anger can cause many different symptoms. It might affect how you feel physically or mentally, or how you behave.

Some people become aggressive towards others when they're angry. Other people hide their anger and may take it out on themselves.

It's not always easy to recognise when anger is the reason why you're behaving differently.

Physical symptoms
faster heartbeat
tense muscles
clenching your fists
tightness in your chest
feeling hot
Mental symptoms
feeling tense or nervous
being unable to relax
being easily irritated
feeling humiliated
resenting other people
Changes in behaviour
shouting
ignoring people or sulking
starting fights
breaking things
self-harming
Things you can try to help with anger
Do
try to recognise when you start to feel angry so you can take steps to calm down as early as possible

give yourself time to think before reacting – try counting to 10 and doing calming breathing exercises

talk to people about what's making you angry – speak to someone who is not connected to the situation, such as a friend, a GP or a support group such as Samaritans

exercise – activities such as running, walking, swimming and yoga can help you relax and reduce stress

find out how to raise your self-esteem, including how to be more assertive

consider peer support, where people use their experiences to help others. Find out more about peer support on the Mind website

listen to free mental wellbeing audio guides

Don’t
do not try to do everything at once; set small targets you can easily achieve

do not focus on things you cannot change. Focus your time and energy on helping yourself feel better

try not to tell yourself that you're alone – most people feel angry sometimes and support is available

try not to use alcohol, cigarettes, gambling or drugs to relieve anger – these can all contribute to poor mental health

Information:
Further information and support
The mental health charity Mind offers more information on:

coping with long-term anger
treatments and support available
Where to get help for anger
Non-urgent advice: See a GP if:
you feel you need help dealing with your anger
They may be able to refer you to a local anger-management programme or counselling.

Information:
Coronavirus (COVID-19) update: how to contact a GP
It's still important to get help from a GP if you need it.

Anger management programmes
A typical anger management programme may involve 1-to-1 counselling and working in a small group.

A programme may be a 1-day or weekend course, or over a couple of months.

The structure of the programme depends on who provides it, but most programmes include cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), as well as counselling.

There are also private courses and therapists who can help with anger issues. Make sure any therapist you see is registered with a professional organisation, such as the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy.

Where to get NHS help for stress, anxiety or depression
Referring yourself for therapy
If you need more support, you can get free psychological therapies, such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), on the NHS.

You can refer yourself directly to a psychological therapies service without a referral from a GP.

See a GP if:
you're struggling to cope with stress, anxiety or depression
you've had a low mood for more than 2 weeks
things you're trying yourself are not helping
you would prefer to get a referral from a GP

Causes of anger
There are many different causes of anger and it's different for everyone.

Some common things that make people feel angry include:

being treated unfairly and feeling powerless to do anything about it
feeling threatened or attacked
other people not respecting your authority, feelings or property
being interrupted when you're trying to achieve a goal
How you react to anger can depend on lots of things, including:

the situation you're in at the moment – if you're dealing with lots of problems or stress, you may find it harder to control your anger
your family history – you may have learned unhelpful ways of dealing with anger from the adults around you when you were a child
events in your past – people who experience traumatic, frightening or stressful events sometimes develop post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) which can lead to angry outbursts
substances such as drugs and alcohol – which make some people act more aggressively than usual
Some of the things that make you angry may not bother other people at all.

You might find it hard to explain why you feel this way but talking to someone could help you find a solution.

Find out about the 5 steps to mental wellbeing.

Important
If uncontrolled anger leads to domestic violence and abuse (violence or threatening behaviour within a relationship), there are places that offer help and support.

You can contact organisations such as:

Refuge
Women's Aid
Alternatives to Violence Project (AVP)
Men's Advice Line – for men

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